gotta be you || beginners guide to being superlative


part four

I think this generation has it the hardest. I say that because today there are more label-pushers than ever, and there are less and less of us who can really grasp who we are just yet.

It hurts when you're pushed out into the world with this pressure of "go get it-- go be who you were meant to be!" and I'm kinda just sitting there like..."what if I don't actually know who that is yet?"

I have so many friends who will tell me about how stressed out they are because they don't know what they're supposed to be doing with their lives, they don't see a clear trail blazed in front of them, and the road signs are ambiguous. I know from experience that the worst feeling in all of this doubt, is that sinking feeling of being alone. Like, "all my friends have it together, that person over there has it together, most people UNDERSTAND LIFE AND WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH IT AND I DON'T. I'm standing here, shaking in my boots. What is wrong with me? Why can't I just know what I'm doing?"

More of us feel like this than you realize-- even if we don't come right out and say it. And the thing is? It's okay. 

We feel like this because the world has burned this false image of what "success" should look like into our brains, and we've nodded our heads and followed without question. We've chased, trying to keep up. But the truth is, it's not that simple.

I deeply believe that God has gifted us uniquely, and that you can let Him drive you and lead you into serious, real, raw, awesome, purposeful things like careers and jobs and work-- whatever you want to call it. But even if you find that, even if you get into the "right" school, and get the "dream job", even if you become the superstar, the "successful" person, you wouldn't have really, truly found your purpose.Yes, of course having a job you like and working for something you believe in is awesome, and it can become a serious blessing. But what if that job, or money, or position suddenly fell apart for whatever reason? Would it feel like your identity just died?

If you feel somehow like you aren't yourself anymore without a label or a title, you haven't found you, darling.

You are beyond the ideas and idioms of success. You are beyond job titles and degrees and IDs. You are the bomb that has blown the box apart.

I love this quote I came across from the Westminster Shorter Catechism:

What is the chief end of mankind? Mankind's chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.

To enjoy him forever. To enjoy your existence with and within and through Him.

I can have the job, and the car, and the dream guy-- and when my relatives inevitably ask at family get-togethers "what it is that I do" I can ramble off a bunch of impressive things, and yet at the same time, when I'm alone with myself, I still don't actually know who I am truly. Or why I'm here. And I don't actually feel a sense of fulfillment and enjoyment.

We were designed to enjoy. This is why we have senses. We have eyes and ears and hands and a mouth, and we can do things and see things, smell things, taste things. We can reach, stretch, bend, run, dance, kiss, cry. We were created to enjoy our creator to the highest degree, and to realize that-- hey, look. HE ALREADY MADE US SOMEBODY.

I was home before I started.

Being yourself is one of the most important things you will ever do. Be happy, silly, goofy, exuberant, loud, sometimes obnoxious (no worries, I'm there too), hyper, chill, wallflower, daredevil, YOU.

If I could go back in time and have a conversation with my teenage self, I would say "Katie, be you and don't you ever subtly make excuses to let yourself change and bend for someone else until you break. BE YOU."

That's also the best dating/relationship advice I could ever give anyone. It's a deep hole to have to find your way out of, when you let someone change you-- or more specifically, when you change yourself so that someone will like you.

What if a guy liked me because I was sophisticated and serious and talked about intellectual things? That would really suck, because if I acted that way around him because he liked it, and liked me because of it, he would like only a small fraction of who I am. Because sure, I can be serious and sophisticated almost never sometimes, but I'm actually a silly, hyper, jokester of a gal. If I shoved all that down and kept it buried for someone else's sake, I would eventually despise who I had become, and that guy would only be a painful reminder of what I had done to myself.

One the other hand, if you are fully yourself, the guy who is ACTUALLY LIKE YOU will be able TO FIND YOU in a busy street. Wear the geeky shirt that only you like, don't be afraid to express your love for Star Trek, peanut butter and pickle sandwiches, finger painting, Pixar films, poetry, most importantly the spiritual things that are important to you-- SAY IT. TALK ABOUT IT. If someone thinks you're weird because of it, so what? Do you really want to attract someone who would think that the real deep-down you is weird?

The right guy will fall in love with the real you. He won't be the guy trying to bribe you into going to a death metal concert, or to a bar, instead he'll be like "Inside Out is playing-- wanna go see it together?"

(...can we just take a second to acknowledge that this would actually be one of the best pickup lines ever? #PixarForever)

Okay, guy advice = over. I think you get the picture. If you walk away from this post with nothing else, walk away with a bold, brave determination to be yourself. And, yes, that does take bravery in today's world. But you know what?

I have faith in you.


xx 

k a t e 








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  1. "hey, look. HE ALREADY MADE US SOMEBODY.

    I was home before I started."

    I love this part.this speaks to me..all of this speaks to me. This is me. I am here. How do you DO that? :p

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    1. <3 thankyouthankyouthankyou, girl! You comment made me smile so huge. Blessed.

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  2. i agree, best pickup line EVER. (I LOVE that movie.)
    also, like, not knowing who we want to be....I TOTALLY GET THAT FEELING...

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    1. I love it too! So much emotion, it's like...0_0 how does Pixar do this.

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  3. This post is so uplifting. I needed to hear this. I'm doing a summer internship right now that I really really don't enjoy, and I don't feel like myself. I am trying to figure out who I want to be- it's both scary and exciting. But it's also fun to dream in the meantime. :)

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    1. <3 thank you so much, Kamryn. I will be praying that the rest of your internship goes well, and that it is peaceful for you.

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